Wednesday, June 20, 2012

30-day writing challenge ~ Day 20 (Going solo)

Going solo.  Day 20 (10 more days to go on the WWFC Writing Challenge)

I've found going solo is not my idea of fun.  I just don't do well on my own.  Daytime is fine when I can commando thrift shop or visit my family or friends, but when nighttime falls sometimes I get lonely.

When I am not blogging, the other internet site I frequent is CafeMom.
There are so many postings along the line of - should I divorce my husband, he is [fill in the blank here ~ cheating on me, looking at me sideways, gaming too much, bromancing his friends, texting another woman, boring me, blah, blah, blah]?  I try to discourage these ladies-in-wanting from leaving their marriages.  One cannot anticipate the fallout from the dissolution of a marriage - from the anger and resentment from the jilted spouse, the hurt and confusion of the children, to the ostracization from the family.

I have read theories that the downfall of America is in part because of the disintegration of the family unit.  Single women and their children are no longer protected by either a spouse or a core family.  Social services have been cut and they are left to their own devices.

While I understand ending a marriage when there is some form of abuse involved, I would advocate a return to establishing "fault" divorces.  The advent of no-fault divorce has been devastating to American families and society.

No reason to go solo, if you don't have to.

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Babs-beetle said...

It's much the same here. People don't marry for life any more, if they marry at all.

Linda Medrano said...

I was married and divorced with two kids by the time I was 24. It was actually fun raising my kids alone. They turned out great too. I think a good marriage is great (and I have one now and have had for 23 years), but a bad one is worse for the kids than a single parent.

Katherine said...

Linda, I am in that category. Have to live with the spouse because I can't afford to divorce...but at this point I think it is worse for the kids...verbal abuse, rudeness...ughhhh

laughingmom said...

We've certainly had our ups and downs over 22 years but I married for life and he'll be with me until he kills me - or the other way around!!I guess we'll love each other to death! HA!

We Work For Cheese said...

This is a tricky one. While I agree people jump into and out of marriage too quickly, I'm not sure that abuse should be the only reason to leave. My ex-husband didn't abuse me, but at a certain point I had to let go of a relationship that was just getting more and more toxic.